“We are only as blind as we want to be.”—Maya Angelou
I was in a long distance relationship with this awesomely amazing guy for almost a good year. And through the entire duration of our relationship, we only got to meet and see each other once despite the fact that we only stayed more or less 400km away from each other. These circumstances bothered me greatly because I value my quality time and face-to-face interaction in my relationships. But in this particular relationship I was deprived of that, and whenever we had to meet or had made plans to be together, something would conveniently come up on his side and we’d have to postpone indefinitely. The relationship could no longer handle the strain. Communication was beginning to dwindle terribly. We could not have crucial conversations because of the distance. And I too had also reached my quota of being okay with not seeing my partner as often as I would like and progressively working on our relationship, so I decided to call it quits.
So this one day he contacts me, we get into a “post-break-up” conversation, with him asking me if this is it between us. He opened up to me and told me about the real reason as to why he kept postponing our meetings. His exact words were as follows, “I never wanted to come meet with you without having proper finances, I know the pain of not being able to provide for the one you love, it is an embarrassment”.