The Fertile Wound®

How Patriarchy Gaslights Women

Oct 23, 2020 0 Comments 88 views

Yesterday afternoon, I found myself just thinking about my online interactions and how I’ve become silent on the things that have always mattered most to me, particularly around sexism and patriarchy. I asked myself what happened. Almost instantly my inner voice retorted back and said, “We don’t speak anymore because we got tired of having men and patriarchy gaslight us whenever we spoke up about the ways they hurt us”.

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Blossoming Heart

To Those Who Are Terrified of Letting Happiness In

Sep 14, 2020Sep 15, 2020 0 Comments 145 views

I always felt more peace when I was hurting or playing out unhappy scripts in the story of my life because that’s the only thing that has ever made sense. Pain seemed like the most consistent thing in my life. And anything that rocked up in my life that seemed to contradict that narrative? I became greatly anxious and restless because happiness was a very threatening thing in my world because of the unfamiliarity of it. So, on the arrival of happiness, I always made countdowns to when it would leave.

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Blossoming Heart

There Is Romance in Friendship Too

Aug 22, 2020 0 Comments 287 views

…we miss out on experiencing all the love there is to experience in this world because it does not come in our most ideal packaging. We are constantly putting a magnifying glass on the love we lack rather than the one we are already blessed with. And then wonder why our lives feel so empty. We don’t get to know the full spectrum of love and romance because we draw lines as to where and how it can be encountered. I mean, all the ways that I have always desired for my life partner to love me? Are the very same ways that my friends have loved and shown up for me.

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Blossoming Heart

Finding Our Way Through Life’s Setbacks and Detours

Aug 7, 2020 2 Comments 291 views

I did not know how important school was to me until I found myself cooped up in bed, bitterly crying at the realization that my dream of one day becoming a practising Psychologist would not materialize as soon as I had planned and hoped. My heart sank at the possibility of my academic dreams being driven further away from me, again. Does this mean I will have another incomplete degree to my name, as detailed in my post…

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Rooted Spirit

My Journey to Reclaiming Christianity

Jul 19, 2020 2 Comments 323 views

The year 2015 is the year when everything flipped for me spiritually. Church and Christianity are all that I had known my entire life. 2015 is the year everything about those, once intimately acquainted spaces stopped making sense to me. I became alienated from everything and everyone. Was God even real? Because suddenly, for me, the church no longer resembled the beautiful bride of Christ that I had come to know. I couldn’t wait to complete the term of my leadership responsibilities and be done with that place, once and for all. I couldn’t stand the pretentiousness and hypocrisy. I couldn’t believe the passivity and silence of the church on social injustices.

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