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…men are expected to prove and perform their manhood and masculinity by how well they can provide not just for themselves, but for those around them. If a man is incapable of playing the role of provider, he often questions his worth, and society sees him as less than and not man enough.
We have created such unlevel playing fields between relationships amongst heterosexual men and women. Women will pull all the strings that they can to get a man to give her a marriage proposal. As women, we will fight, sweat and even act out of character just to obtain the last name of the men we love; because it is women’s ears that marriage has been preached to louder than it has been to the ears of men.
What a time to be alive and witness the winds of change that are sweeping through our world at this current moment. It has been a time of mixed emotions and feelings, a time that has left us feeling really high and yet also low all at once.
As women who have been sexually assaulted, we become messiahs for the men who violated us, we feel the need to be the ones who bear their sins, and take the blame.
I am terrified that our society becoming highly westernized, and capitalist ideas taking precedence over our day to day interactions, is taking away from our fundamental nature as black people- “botho” or “ubuntu”. We are losing our human face…